Sea of Love ( June 2005)
MANUAL JUNE 2005
SECTION: HEALTH, LOVE AND OTHER CATASTROPHES
HEAD: SEA OF LOVE
SUBHEAD: Passion can lead to obsession and pride has a way of making the best of us go a little crazy. Just ask the rabbit
COLUMN: KATRINA HOLIGORES
NO OF PAGES ALLOTTED: 1 PAGE
A long weekend and heat wave can reduce a normally hyper person used to running around (like me) to sloth and film marathons. With my usual fare of half sweet half salty popcorn, I watch as stories of people or even animated robots flit by at 24 frames per second. Romantic comedy is normally the genre of choice among my friends or whoever is willing to accompany me for 90 minutes or so, and the light sometimes sappy fare is always a welcome respite from the goings-on of our dramatic, telenovela world. In a romantic comedy, everyone is misunderstood, everyone is attractive, and everyone ends up happily ever after. Even characters that have undergone heartbreak and disappointment are rewarded with true love or at the very least, peace of mind and heart before the credits start to roll. Talk about life wanting to imitate art. How many true-to-life screenplays have we heard where romance turns man into monster?
If you have ever felt the thrill or the agony of true love then you must have also felt the true agony of disappointment and pain. Passion can lead to obsession and pride has a way of making the best of us go a little crazy. There is a fine line between fighting for the one you love, and plain old fighting. Very recently I ran into an old friend who had a rather passionate albeit ill-timed romance in her teens. Though she tried to make a clean break when things were no longer working out, her boyfriend was determined not to let her go without emotional chains attached. Threats of suicide, violence, suicide, and…yeesh, more suicide ensued. When she tried to get away he hounded her; if there had been text and email at that time then I would be afraid to imagine what would be in her inbox (can you MMS a boiled rabbit?)
Fatal Attraction, a movie starring Glenn Close and Michael Douglas, was said to have made every wayward husband quiver. Michael was married but couldn’t resist a passionate one-night stand with Glenn Close. The result was the slow scary unveiling of a woman willing to do anything to get him back. The movie depicted obsession to an extreme but there are many real stories that could easily rival that. Cut to an old headliner several years back about a jilted wife who shot her husband’s nurse when said nurse couldn’t reveal the husband’s whereabouts. The news headlined the local broadsheets for a while, but was then taken over by—another seemingly crime of passion—the suspected suicide (due to heartbreak) of a hot, young actor. The same emotion that has fueled the creation of many beautiful and memorable things can also lead to its destruction.
There is nothing wrong with passion so long as it does not result in blindness. Have you ever been in a relationship (whether business or romantic) that is on a downward spiral yet you refuse to let go? You fight for it, but, seriously, can you discern between fighting for something that is essential to your well-being and one that could lead to your mental, emotional and even spiritual demise? When you hear the word “stalker” do you shudder because you once had one, or you once were one?
Some things are just not really meant to last beyond its charted course. It’s like flogging a dead horse. For you gentlemen (and women who may be reading) if your someone says “give me space” or “I need some time” or, “ I don’t want to be with you anymore” then allow it some time to sink it. If you are married and there are kids involved, I would seriously recommend counseling…if your partner is open to it, because there is no way to force someone (without physical violence) to do something they don’t want.
I once read that “The only sin passion can commit is to be joyless.” If the object of your passion has been causing you feelings other than joy and love then it is time to let that object go. For your sake and for the sake of all the rabbits out there.
SECTION: HEALTH, LOVE AND OTHER CATASTROPHES
HEAD: SEA OF LOVE
SUBHEAD: Passion can lead to obsession and pride has a way of making the best of us go a little crazy. Just ask the rabbit
COLUMN: KATRINA HOLIGORES
NO OF PAGES ALLOTTED: 1 PAGE
A long weekend and heat wave can reduce a normally hyper person used to running around (like me) to sloth and film marathons. With my usual fare of half sweet half salty popcorn, I watch as stories of people or even animated robots flit by at 24 frames per second. Romantic comedy is normally the genre of choice among my friends or whoever is willing to accompany me for 90 minutes or so, and the light sometimes sappy fare is always a welcome respite from the goings-on of our dramatic, telenovela world. In a romantic comedy, everyone is misunderstood, everyone is attractive, and everyone ends up happily ever after. Even characters that have undergone heartbreak and disappointment are rewarded with true love or at the very least, peace of mind and heart before the credits start to roll. Talk about life wanting to imitate art. How many true-to-life screenplays have we heard where romance turns man into monster?
If you have ever felt the thrill or the agony of true love then you must have also felt the true agony of disappointment and pain. Passion can lead to obsession and pride has a way of making the best of us go a little crazy. There is a fine line between fighting for the one you love, and plain old fighting. Very recently I ran into an old friend who had a rather passionate albeit ill-timed romance in her teens. Though she tried to make a clean break when things were no longer working out, her boyfriend was determined not to let her go without emotional chains attached. Threats of suicide, violence, suicide, and…yeesh, more suicide ensued. When she tried to get away he hounded her; if there had been text and email at that time then I would be afraid to imagine what would be in her inbox (can you MMS a boiled rabbit?)
Fatal Attraction, a movie starring Glenn Close and Michael Douglas, was said to have made every wayward husband quiver. Michael was married but couldn’t resist a passionate one-night stand with Glenn Close. The result was the slow scary unveiling of a woman willing to do anything to get him back. The movie depicted obsession to an extreme but there are many real stories that could easily rival that. Cut to an old headliner several years back about a jilted wife who shot her husband’s nurse when said nurse couldn’t reveal the husband’s whereabouts. The news headlined the local broadsheets for a while, but was then taken over by—another seemingly crime of passion—the suspected suicide (due to heartbreak) of a hot, young actor. The same emotion that has fueled the creation of many beautiful and memorable things can also lead to its destruction.
There is nothing wrong with passion so long as it does not result in blindness. Have you ever been in a relationship (whether business or romantic) that is on a downward spiral yet you refuse to let go? You fight for it, but, seriously, can you discern between fighting for something that is essential to your well-being and one that could lead to your mental, emotional and even spiritual demise? When you hear the word “stalker” do you shudder because you once had one, or you once were one?
Some things are just not really meant to last beyond its charted course. It’s like flogging a dead horse. For you gentlemen (and women who may be reading) if your someone says “give me space” or “I need some time” or, “ I don’t want to be with you anymore” then allow it some time to sink it. If you are married and there are kids involved, I would seriously recommend counseling…if your partner is open to it, because there is no way to force someone (without physical violence) to do something they don’t want.
I once read that “The only sin passion can commit is to be joyless.” If the object of your passion has been causing you feelings other than joy and love then it is time to let that object go. For your sake and for the sake of all the rabbits out there.
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