Heat
HEAT
By Katrina A. Holigores
There is nothing more nerve wracking than being “set-up”. Blind dates can strike terror into the hearts of men and women alike. Not immune to the anticipation (sometimes excitement, sometimes dread) the dater and datee try and do as much “research” on each other as they possibly can. They leave to fate (or trusted friends) to see if chemistry will be present on the big night. Set-ups may be seen as a wonderful opportunity to fall in love forevermore, find a new friend or, show a complete stranger what a total loser you are. The pressure is on. When you ask for advice on how you should behave or act, you will normally hear “Just be yourself”. Sounds simple enough right? What do you think?
Pre-date is always the most tense, especially if one doesn’t know HOW the other looks. You’ve heard the following before “Is she hot?” “She’s really, really nice”. All of a sudden you think of what could possibly walk out that door as you pull up in front of her house and it’s almost like the A/C in your car has seized to work. Sweating is never glamourous and you feel the heat, not in a very flattering way. Another factor that may add more flame to the fire is when pulling up in front of dates residence you realize that her house is the same size as a small African village. You glance nervously at the phalanx of security guards and European cars just inside the iron gates and wish you had never agreed.
Finally, after a couple of quick sniffs at certain body parts to insure that the heat has not caused unwanted emanations you politely ask for your date. Depending on the MO of the house you either wait outside or are escorted in. Whether this is your first blind date of your fiftieth you can never be totally prepared for what’s about to happen. Maybe the best piece of advice to follow is no matter what comes out to greet you, always, always, be polite and gracious. Even if you look like a matinee idol with the body to boot, no one will be able to see past bad manners. If her father or mother (or both) come across you first, if you are seated STAND up and for God’s sake be man enough to say good evening and introduce yourself and who you are waiting for. (You never know, there could be more than one blind date occurring that night)
So date comes out and you realize (with a slowly sinking heart) that it is NOT the woman of your dreams (you just KNOW, you tell yourself) and resisting the urge to escape you greet her and escort her to your car. Common decency will alert you to walk at pace with her ( not twenty steps ahead) and to open the car door waiting for her to sit down comfortably before closing it ( LOOK before you slam it to avoid bloodshed). And off you go. Small talk in the car is a must, and it would be good if you could book dinner or drinks in a relatively quiet place that is in close proximity to her house, so the small talk doesn’t have too many uncomfortable gaps. Bear in mind to LISTEN to whatever she says, she may just say something that is interesting, funny, or psychotic.
Dinner time. Hopefully, you have taken it upon yourself to do two things: One, called your date before the night to ask her about any dietary preferences, you do not want to take an animal rights activist to the best steakhouse in town. Second you called the restaurant ahead to make reservations. During dinner if asked about what you do, try and relate your field of work to something current, ESPECIALLY if it’s a job that is not very common. Of course if you say “I’m a doctor” and she gives you a blank stare then think of her as an organ donor. When she talks about what she does, if you really don’t understand ASK. It may open up other fields of interest, or common friends. As an icebreaker you can also ask how she knew or met whoever it was who set the two of you up. Aside from listening to what she’s saying pay attention to what YOU’RE saying. There is a big difference between being arrogant and being confident about what you do. It’s also not a competition, so don’t blow up what you do in order to impress, sooner or later the truth will come out.
How the date ends is entirely up to you. Do remember that getting to know someone in a span of 2-4 hours is not really fair, we all have our good and our bad days and everyone deserves a chance. Take the heat off by being truthful and simple with your words and your actions. If you are nice and sincere she will remember it, even if you also don’t turn out to be the “One.” Remember, just because your date is not your type, she may have hot friends or relatives, who are.
By Katrina A. Holigores
There is nothing more nerve wracking than being “set-up”. Blind dates can strike terror into the hearts of men and women alike. Not immune to the anticipation (sometimes excitement, sometimes dread) the dater and datee try and do as much “research” on each other as they possibly can. They leave to fate (or trusted friends) to see if chemistry will be present on the big night. Set-ups may be seen as a wonderful opportunity to fall in love forevermore, find a new friend or, show a complete stranger what a total loser you are. The pressure is on. When you ask for advice on how you should behave or act, you will normally hear “Just be yourself”. Sounds simple enough right? What do you think?
Pre-date is always the most tense, especially if one doesn’t know HOW the other looks. You’ve heard the following before “Is she hot?” “She’s really, really nice”. All of a sudden you think of what could possibly walk out that door as you pull up in front of her house and it’s almost like the A/C in your car has seized to work. Sweating is never glamourous and you feel the heat, not in a very flattering way. Another factor that may add more flame to the fire is when pulling up in front of dates residence you realize that her house is the same size as a small African village. You glance nervously at the phalanx of security guards and European cars just inside the iron gates and wish you had never agreed.
Finally, after a couple of quick sniffs at certain body parts to insure that the heat has not caused unwanted emanations you politely ask for your date. Depending on the MO of the house you either wait outside or are escorted in. Whether this is your first blind date of your fiftieth you can never be totally prepared for what’s about to happen. Maybe the best piece of advice to follow is no matter what comes out to greet you, always, always, be polite and gracious. Even if you look like a matinee idol with the body to boot, no one will be able to see past bad manners. If her father or mother (or both) come across you first, if you are seated STAND up and for God’s sake be man enough to say good evening and introduce yourself and who you are waiting for. (You never know, there could be more than one blind date occurring that night)
So date comes out and you realize (with a slowly sinking heart) that it is NOT the woman of your dreams (you just KNOW, you tell yourself) and resisting the urge to escape you greet her and escort her to your car. Common decency will alert you to walk at pace with her ( not twenty steps ahead) and to open the car door waiting for her to sit down comfortably before closing it ( LOOK before you slam it to avoid bloodshed). And off you go. Small talk in the car is a must, and it would be good if you could book dinner or drinks in a relatively quiet place that is in close proximity to her house, so the small talk doesn’t have too many uncomfortable gaps. Bear in mind to LISTEN to whatever she says, she may just say something that is interesting, funny, or psychotic.
Dinner time. Hopefully, you have taken it upon yourself to do two things: One, called your date before the night to ask her about any dietary preferences, you do not want to take an animal rights activist to the best steakhouse in town. Second you called the restaurant ahead to make reservations. During dinner if asked about what you do, try and relate your field of work to something current, ESPECIALLY if it’s a job that is not very common. Of course if you say “I’m a doctor” and she gives you a blank stare then think of her as an organ donor. When she talks about what she does, if you really don’t understand ASK. It may open up other fields of interest, or common friends. As an icebreaker you can also ask how she knew or met whoever it was who set the two of you up. Aside from listening to what she’s saying pay attention to what YOU’RE saying. There is a big difference between being arrogant and being confident about what you do. It’s also not a competition, so don’t blow up what you do in order to impress, sooner or later the truth will come out.
How the date ends is entirely up to you. Do remember that getting to know someone in a span of 2-4 hours is not really fair, we all have our good and our bad days and everyone deserves a chance. Take the heat off by being truthful and simple with your words and your actions. If you are nice and sincere she will remember it, even if you also don’t turn out to be the “One.” Remember, just because your date is not your type, she may have hot friends or relatives, who are.
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